Love is in the air this February and I have a new organizing blog series to go along. I work with clients everyday on the art of letting go but I also give them the push to dive in and add items that bring them joy. This series is called Live with what you LOVE. I encourage you to be inspired to identify what makes you happy, create goals of how you want to live, purge what you can live without and add what brings you joy.
Each room in your home has an identity and the identity of bedrooms is most often confused. I know, it seems impossible to confuse the identity and purpose of a room with 4 walls and most typically a bed, but it’s true. The identity of a bedroom should almost always be a room for rest and relaxation. The bedroom should be a place to recharge and decompress but all too often it isn’t. Bedrooms are often used for stashing and storage because they are private spaces within a home that the average person stopping by doesn’t see.
Do you know that feeling you have when you first open your hotel room door? You instantly feel relaxed. That’s because that hotel room is designed for relaxation. That is the way you should feel in your own bedroom.
The average person sleeps 9,528 days in their life time or 1316 weeks which equals 26 years. Yes, over 25% of our life is spent sleeping. Why are you doing all of the sleeping with a mattress that isn’t overly comfortable and piles of clutter on each side of the bed?
I once had a consultation with a client that was moving into their dream home. Her name was Mindy and she was really struggling with how everything was going to fit. We met at her current home and I instantly understood why. Each and every room had the same identity. To her it seemed normal but to me it seemed chaotic. There was no definition between where they worked, ate, or relaxed. The master bedroom had a mattress on the floor, 3 desks, 5 computers, bookcases, a mini fridge, and a chair. Now in Silicon Valley that just sounds like a tech startup office but this was Mindy’s home that she was selling for over $2million dollars.
Mindy was raised with this lack of structure. Mindy was calling me for help so I knew she understood that this wasn’t normal. I explained to her that having a little bit of everything in each space made it completely overwhelming to maintain and organize. We did an exercise together where I pulled out pages of my notebook and we created a label and identity for each room. Under the room name we listed what should take place there. The living room page described its purpose for seating, entertaining, TV viewing, and game playing. Items that didn’t fit the room identity didn’t belong. We went room by room and made our list.
For our next appointment, we took the pages with room details to her new home so we could transfer the identities to the new spaces. We went back to the purpose of each space if Mindy hit a roadblock with a piece of furniture. The room she struggled with the most was the master bedroom. She never really accounted for the idea that she and her husband needed a place in their home to retreat from the worries of work and the demands of being parents. There are so many people out there in the same boat as Mindy.
I am quite passionate about creating zen retreats for clients in their bedrooms and in most cases I actually encourage them to add more. Yes, I said add. I should actually clarify and say replace because I really want clients to sleep on a mattress that they love, with bedding that is soft, with floors absent of clutter, with paint colors that are relaxing, and with good lighting. I am probably more passionate about this than the average professional organizer but because of the estate services that we offer it’s hard not to be. All too often we are liquidating homes with bedrooms than no one would find relaxing. Dust is piled up under the bed, the mattress is soiled and lumpy, the sheets are thread-barren. It’s just plain sad.
Tips for creating a bedroom that you LOVE:
A mattress is something most people hate to spend money on even though they use it the most. Give yourself permission to buy a new mattress that you LOVE.
Remove items that don’t fit under the umbrella of rest and relaxation. I’m talking about the treadmill in the corner that has clothing piled up on it. I know it was expensive but the reality is that you aren’t using it. I’m also talking about those boxes from Amazon that haven’t been opened yet in the corner and that huge pile of paperwork and magazines collecting dust on your nightstand.
Make it a space you can relax and remove yourself from your day. I encourage you to unplug in this area, live without a TV and try to keep your phone and laptop out of this area before bed.
I love this little info graphic on how to make a bed to give you that hotel feel. My husband always makes fun of how many pillows I have on our bed but they do give that rest and relaxation appeal!
I’ll be back on Sunday with tips on decluttering your vanity and makeup so stay tuned!